Therapy for Men in Santa Rosa, Sonoma County and Online in CA
Change how you show up in relationships
Practical, structured therapy for men who want better relationships, more confidence, and healthier ways to respond when emotions run high.
You care deeply about the people in your life.
But you’ve been irritable, defensive, shut down or stuck in your own head.
And it keeps getting in the way of how you want to show up with them.
You want to feel more calm, confident, and present in your life again.
I get it, and I’m here to help.
You look like you're holding it together. It doesn't feel that way.
A lot of men I work with don’t come to therapy because their life is falling apart.
They come in because they’re exhausted from holding everything together.
From the outside, you may look successful, reliable, productive, and capable. But underneath that:
Your mind never fully shuts off, it’s hard to relax or sleep
You want more space and alone time, but your partner tells you they want more from you.
You find it hard to speak up for yourself and be your authentic self in relationships
You feel checked out, apathetic, or unmotivated
You’re constantly stressing about work, money, or what might go wrong
You find yourself zoning out or getting distracted during important conversations
Resentments, pressure, and loneliness is building up inside
A lot of men don’t realize they’re struggling because they’re still functioning.
But surviving and functioning are not the same thing as actually feeling connected, energized, and fulfilled in your life.
I’m Angela Sitka, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
I specialize in helping men navigate relationship struggles, emotional disconnection, stress, and the pressure of trying to hold everything together.
Learn more about my Specialties for Men
Help for men who feel inadequate and have self-doubt in relationships
Help for men in relationships on the edge of breakups and divorce
Help for independent men who often have their guard up and find it hard to trust in relationships
Do I really need therapy?
The question most men ask me before starting therapy.
If you've ever worried that you're not "good at therapy," I think you’ll find yourself a good fit for my practice.
Many of the men I work with come in saying,
“I've never done this before" or "I'm not great at talking about my feelings."
That's okay.
Therapy doesn't have to feel vague or aimless. In my practice, I offer a clear, practical process designed to help you make meaningful changes in your relationships and everyday life.
You don't need to know exactly what's wrong or what to say. It's my job to help us identify what's getting in the way and guide your therapy process.
My approach is structured, action-oriented, and focused on helping you respond differently in the moments that matter most. If you're looking for practical insight rather than endless analysis, you'll likely feel quite comfortable here.
You Pick Your Therapy Option:
Angela Sitka, LMFT, psychotherapist in Santa Rosa
Weekly Therapy
Weekly traditional model of therapy with once a week 50-minute sessions provides a structured space to work through challenges as they arise while building new skills over time. This option is a good fit if you want ongoing support, accountability, and a consistent place to process what's happening in your relationships and life.
Therapy Intensives
A therapy intensive is an extended, concentrated block of therapy, with sessions of 3 hour increments one-on-one with Angela Sitka, LMFT. This structure of therapy allows us to dive deeply into the patterns, challenges, and skills that are most relevant to your situation. For people who need help fast, want to skip the waitlists, and jump-start their progress.
Not Sure Which Option Is Right for You?
That's okay. During our consultation call, we can talk about your goals, what you're hoping to get out of therapy, and which option makes the most sense for your situation.
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I use an approach called ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), which is a practical, evidence-based form of therapy that helps people respond to stress, emotions, and relationship challenges more effectively instead of staying stuck in the same patterns.
My style is active and collaborative. I will ask thoughtful questions, challenge unhelpful patterns, and give straightforward, practical feedback.
Some of the ways I help men in therapy include:
Understanding why you react the way you do under stress, conflict, or pressure
Improving communication and handling difficult conversations more effectively
Learning how to manage anger, shutdown, avoidance, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm
Identifying patterns in relationships, work, and daily life that are no longer working
Clarifying your values: the kind of partner, father, leader, or person you want to be
Developing practical tools for handling difficult thoughts and emotions without letting them control your behavior
Creating concrete strategies and action steps you can apply outside of therapy sessions
Helping you feel more connected, grounded, confident, and intentional in your life and relationships
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Being proactive in dealing with your stress and relationship problems is always the better approach rather than being reactive to an urgent situation.
That said, what happens when you continue to hold it all in? Here are some (not all) of the things that can happen:
Lashing out at loved ones; fights that are getting increasing difficult to make a repair afterwards
Avoiding the difficult conversations
Overworking: you work longer hours because it’s the place you still feel competent and it’s a way to avoid the discomfort at home.
You tell everyone you just want to be left alone.
Drinking/substance use more than usual
Engaging in affairs or fantasizing about alternate relationships.
Your life becomes smaller- there’s lots of things you “used to do.” Hobbies, friends, passions, just don’t have space in your life anymore.
Divorce/separations/breakups are being brought up in conversations
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Not usually in the way most people imagine.
In my practice, I have a more structured approach so that you don’t need to feel the pressure of what to say or how we will fill the session time. That’s my job to guide us!
I provide Acceptance and Commitment Therapy as well as other relational therapy modalities, to create a unique experience for my clients that is part therapy, part coaching.
Many men avoid therapy because they picture sitting in a room being pressured to talk about emotions they don’t fully understand or know how to express. Emotional awareness (sometimes we call it emotional intelligence) is a skill that can be built. I teach this to my clients, so you don’t need to know it already to start.
You do not need to “be good at therapy” to benefit from it. Many men start working with me unsure how to talk about what they are experiencing, and that is completely normal.
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Therapy is different because it is not just advice, venting, or hearing what worked for someone else.
My role as a licensed therapist is to help you understand the deeper patterns underneath what is happening in your life and relationships. I am trained to identify stress responses, communication patterns, emotional habits, and relational dynamics, so that you can start doing things differently.
Another important difference is that therapy creates space that is less influenced by projection. Even well-meaning friends can unintentionally filter problems through their own experiences, beliefs, and biases. My job is to stay attuned to your perspective and help you make sense of what is happening without turning your life into a reflection of someone else’s story.
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My approach of combining therapy with therapeutic coaching provides both the structure needed and integration of the deeper pieces that often get missed in a one-size-fits-all approach.
Rather than offering generic advice, I use evidence-based approaches that are highly personalized to you.
While life coaches, online course/programs or more generalized therapy can all have their benefit, I started my own private practice because I wanted to do something different that goes much deeper into the roots of the psychology of why we do what we do.
I intentionally keep my practice smaller and specialized so I can provide a more tailored and thoughtful therapeutic experience rather than relying on standardized treatment approaches you might find in a coaching program or a structured therapy group/class.